🕊️ WEDNESDAY – GOD’S TALK > FEMININE SPIRITUAL ENERGY, HEALING, PRAYER, PROPHETIC REFLECTION, DIVINE ALIGNMENT, AND RECONNECTING WITH GOD.

 The Ultimate Healing and growth process

                                         


When Growth Makes You Outgrow Someone You Care About                                            


There’s this quiet shift that happens when you finally start evolving into the version of yourself you once prayed for. You begin to notice things you never paid attention to before, your peace means more than attention, your standards start rising, and love suddenly looks different.
That’s where I found myself.
No boyfriend, no relationship drama, just me and my best male friend.
He’s a good person. He cares deeply about me, and honestly, I care about him too. But there’s this truth I can’t ignore: we’re not aligned. I’m years ahead of him, in life, in mindset, in education, in growth. And no matter how much I try to imagine it working, something in me keeps whispering, “It’s not your story.”
At first, I felt bad about it. He didn’t do anything wrong. But then I realized, sometimes the kindest thing you can do for both of you is to not force something that isn’t meant to grow where you’re going.

🌿 The Sentence That Changed My View
Someone once said:

> “The changes that are needed are in line with what you wanted.”


And it hit me differently.
It means the things changing in your life, even the ones that feel uncomfortable, are actually aligning you with what you always wanted.

In love, it’s not rejection; it’s alignment.
You’re not being cold; you’re being called higher.

🌸 The Emotional Shift That Follows

When you start choosing alignment over attachment, something powerful happens inside you:

1. You feel relief, but also guilt.
Relief because you know you made the right decision… guilt because you hate hurting someone’s feelings. But that’s not selfish , it’s empathy.

2. You start seeing love differently.
You stop wanting attention. You crave peace, maturity, and mutual energy.

3. You begin to feel “too grown” for some people.
And that’s okay. You’re not snobbish; you’re evolving. Not everyone can meet you at your healed version.

4. You start attracting a calmer kind of love.
When you stay focused on growth and self-respect, the energy around you shifts. You stop begging for effort, and start meeting people who just get it.

5. You realize you’re not lonely,  you’re preparing.
This quiet season isn’t punishment. It’s preparation. You’re becoming the woman who attracts what she deserves, not what she tolerates.

💫 The Truth About Alignment

It’s not always romantic.
Sometimes it’s just peaceful.

It’s walking away from “almost” connections because your soul finally understands it deserves complete.

So if you’re in that phase where you’re choosing yourself, even when it’s hard,  please know this:
You’re not missing love. You’re making room for the right one.


✨ Growth will sometimes cost you a few people, but it will return you to yourself and that’s the love story that always leads to the right person in the end.

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